Stuff & Things 7/10

1. Tuesday night, I was setting the coffee pot.  I called out “Honey?  What time are we going to the gym in the morning?”  That hung in the air before we both sort of chuckled.  “When did we become that couple?” I asked.  We’ve both made some significant changes this year–and I think we’re both feeling better than we ever have!  You don’t have to do it all, but finding something manageable for yourself is all it really takes!

2. I’m heading out to South Carolina tomorrow!  One of my absolute besties is having a baby in August, and this will be our last hoorah before the baby comes!  It’s so crazy to me to think the next time she and I get to spend time together she’ll be someone’s mom!  When the baby comes, I’ll be packing up and  spending some time out there to help out.  I’m the closest thing to a sister she has, and being that to someone is…well, it’s just really special.  I can’t wait to be little Sophie’s Aunt Jo!

3. I’m getting my haircut on Tuesday for the first time in…well, way too long.  For some reason whenever I know an appt is coming up, I obsess over it!  I’ve been loving my super long hair–but I’ve sort of let it just grow into a mop.  I’m really hoping for some fun layers to actually give some shape and life back into my locks!  I’m thinking a little something like this!

also, I just love Rachel Talbott!
4. Random, but last night the hubs was having a craving for Hardee’s.  I couldn’t tell you the last time I ate at Hardees (I think it was back in HS).  I wasn’t specifically craving anything, so I tagged along.  I ordered a 1/3 cheeseburger on one of their freshly baked buns and oh, my gosh, y’all.  I can’t believe I’m sitting raving about Hardees, but I am!  The burger was so delicious, the bun was so fresh, and their fries were perfectly crispy!  Thanks to no gall bladder, I tend to feel pretty sick after any type of fatty (super greasy) meal.  I felt fine!  I don’t know what they’re doing there–but we’ll be back.
5.  I just realized it seems kind of funny that I talk about going to the gym and Hardee’s in the same post.  But that’s just it.  We’re not extremists, honestly.  We eat pretty healthily 95% of the time.  We only drink water (except our one cup of coffee/day).  We eat at home 95% of the month.  So when we splurge we spurge!

6. I finished my editor’s edits yesterday.  My sister (who has been an editor for 20 years) is going through and giving one last sweep of the manuscript.  Every time I go through it, it’s looking more and more like a real book.  Once the book is out, I’m planning on sharing my experience with the whole process.  Would you guys want to see that?  
Oh.  And it comes out next week.

Holy Yikes

This weekend was exactly what I needed.  My editor worked her butt off.  I worked my butt off.  My sister worked her butt off.  And things are really, really coming together with this book.  I can’t even believe all of this is happening.  There’s a title.  There’s content.  There are cover options.  And I’m kind of dying on the inside because how is this happening?  In the last several weeks, so many people have uttered the words I can’t wait to read your book.  AND THAT JUST MAKES ME WANT TO DO BACK FLIPS, Y’ALL!  I won’t, because I’m a liability.  But I want to!

Not to harp on it, but the fact that so many people are taking the time to make my dream their priority isn’t lost on me.  Of course it’s important to me, but so many people are putting their lives on hold and donating their time–and, oh man.  There will never be enough words to tell you what that means.

I told J the other night that I think I finally get it.  After college, I never ever understood when people truly loved their jobs.  I didn’t even really understand how J could spend all day and all night working.  Saturday afternoon, we were sitting on the couch.  I was working on edits while he was watching TV–and I just felt so happy.  I could do this work for the rest of my life, and I really hope I get to.

After college, my mom called me a fish out of water.  I just flopped around, searching.  It seems silly to me now.  This has always been my place — I was just doing everything and anything else.  Back then, all of this seemed so scary.  Don’t get me wrong–it’s still scary.  But it’s the best kind of scary.

J and I got to spend some quality time with lot of people we care about, which is always good for a little rebooting.  In my opinion, there is nothing more important in life than the people we get to share it with.  With football season just around the corner (holy yikes), I’m soaking in whatever time I can get with him.

You guys–I drove the stick by myself to run errands and no one died!!  I think I can officially knock it off my 30 before 30–even if I’m not the best at it yet!

I’m easing my way back into the running thing.  Being sidelined for 7 weeks kind of threw a wrench in all that training I did.  I have to keep perspective, though.  When I first started out back in February, I couldn’t run to the end of my driveway.  My first run out after the boot came off, I ran a mile.  Since the boot has been off, I’ve run a total of 8 miles.  I’ll take it.

Phew.  Okay.  I think that’s about all I have to catch you all up on.  I hate that I’ve been so quiet around here–but someday, someday.  I know, I keep promising.  Love you guys!

Should We Just Give Up?

Should We Just Give Up?

You know this adorable scene in The Notebook?
(skip to 1:13)

Yeah.  It’s not like that.  It’s not like that at all.  
It’s on my 30 before 30 to learn to drive stick shift.  It just so happens that my darling Camry is dead, once again, and the only vehicle left for me to use is stick shift.  
I’m pretty sure you all, no matter where you live, could hear J and I screaming at each other on Sunday afternoon.  To my credit, I drove around campus several times and made it all the way to Walmart and back without dying.  J and I weren’t speaking to each other by time we got home.  Whatever.
Our luck with cars over the weekend was laughable, honestly.  J’s fancy new-to-us-car wouldn’t start on Saturday morning, so we had to drop lots of dollar bills to buy a fancy new battery.  
Sunday, we were meeting friends for lunch (which was kind of a nightmare in and of itself–if you live in or around Fuquay–pass on Cooleys, k?).  Black car: black interior = hot as donkey balls.  So J decided to start the car while we were saying our goodbyes in the parking lot. When we went to leave, J goes to open the door. and…
nope.
Locked.
Cool.
It’s Sunday in a small, small town.  Not a single lock smith was open.  And because his new car is fancy the tool at the O’Reilly’s Autoparts wasn’t the right tool.  
So what can we do?
Hashtag: Anyone Got A Bicycle? 
Stuff & Things A Day Late

Stuff & Things A Day Late

1.  We had to shave Campbell.  I can’t get over his tail.  He went to rub on Bailey’s face the other day.  She backed away from him as if she was saying don’t rub on me you mutant.  I still think he’s handsome, but then again I don’t think people with ugly babies realize their babies are ugly.  Ignorance is bliss, y’all.  I will say this: makes a huge difference in the number of times I have to sweep in a week!
2. J and I are binge watching Orange Is The New Black.  By time this goes live on Friday, we’ll have finished the series.  It’s pathetic how sad that thought makes me feel.
3. One of the funniest moments from this past weekend had nothing to do with the proposal.  After we picked Amber up from the airport, we were starving.  Our hotel was right across the street from the epicenter, so we wandered over for a slice of pizza.  On our way back to the hotel, these boys stopped us asking to take a picture with them–claiming it was one kids’ bachelor party.  We agreed.  As the kid was getting the camera up on his phone, I actually looked at him.  Uh, Will?  I asked.  He looked up and I could actually see his eyes focusing.  He hollered out to his buddy: Uh, Bagner?  We’re busted.  This is Hodges’s wife.  They were brothers of J’s fraternity!!  No one was getting married–they were just hitting on us!  BUSTED!
4.  J is freakishly good at sewing.  I used to pick on him for it, but then I realized it could come in handy…  I sure do love that kid.
5. Of course there was a massive storm blowing through just as I went to take pictures of this mani.  Sorry the photos are so dark!
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One Word: Epic.

One Word: Epic.

It might be Thursday, but I’m still catching my breath from this weekend.
This is a long one, but I promise it’s worth it if you stick around til the end.
You all remember my friend Amber, right?  The one with the heart of gold who loved me when I wasn’t very lovable?  Well, our roles have reversed some.  Her boyfriend is gearing up for a long deployment, and that means a lot of his time is spent in training.  He’s away.  A lot.

So when my sister-in-law Dannie (Amber’s BFF) called and said that Devin was sending Amber to Charlotte for a girls’ weekend because he was going to be out training in the middle of the ocean, I didn’t think anything of it.  He’s the kind of guy to do that sort of thing.  The only thing is, Amber wasn’t allowed to know.  When she finally found out that a plane ticket had been bought–the questioning started.

The thing is, homegirl was flying across the country.  There’s very little that would actually stop me from seeing her, and she knows that.  So I had to lie.  I had to lie my pants off.  I told her J and I would be in GA for the weekend.  Meanwhile, I booked a train ticket and off I went!

I was the first to arrive at the hotel (thanks, Uber for getting me everywhere quickly and safely).  And oooooooh my was it swanky!  Devin booked us at the Omni Hotel in uptown Charlotte.  Upon arrival, my friendly Uber driver let me know that it was Taste Of Charlotte!  The entire event was set up just outside our hotel doors!

The surprises kept coming.  Once I got into the room, a woman came and set up The Romance Package.  Devin had us hooked up to the max!  I couldn’t wait for my sister (dropping the in law) to arrive and later, Amber!

Amber wasn’t getting in until close to midnight, so Dannie and I hit the streets for Taste!  It’s so rare that she and I get any actual sister time–so we were soaking it up!  Both exhausted, we decided to take our food up to the hotel room where we could watch (and hear) the concert happening just outside!  Finally, it was time to head to the airport!

This might be one of my favorite memories right here.  We of course got there stupid early (we factored in the non-existent traffic).  So Dannie and I circled the airport like 7 times.  On the last go round we decided I should hide.  So I climbed into the back seat and hid underneath a pile of coats.  When Amber arrived, Dannie jumped out, helped her with her bags and then the two girls got back in the car.

As we started to pull away, I popped up out of the back seat and asked “can y’all turn up the radio?”  Amber squealed and jumped backwards towards the door!  She had to take a double take and then the excitement settled in!  It was so much fun!

If y’all have hung around here a while, you know my husband took his dear sweet time proposing to me.  Amber was in that phase of “I know it’s happening but when?”  And because of that, every little thing has her mind turning.  I didn’t want the weekend to go by with her disappointed, so I just made sure to tell her that the weekend wasn’t about that.  Devin just wanted to do something nice for her–he wasn’t there (before you all think I’m a lying little snot…I had NO IDEA about anything. I just figured if it WAS happening, I’d know).  No sooner were the words out of my mouth when her phone rang.  It was Devin, and she could hardly hear him.  When she hung up, you could see her deflation.  He’s really not here she said.  I could hear the boat.


Well.  At least the disappointment was out of the way and we could move on.  I didn’t know exactly what we were doing for the weekend, but I knew Devin had some tricks up his sleeve.  He was sending perfectly timed emails to Amber’s phone with riddles (he did the same for her birthday).

Saturday morning was brunch.  But not before we surprised Amber again!  While she was in the shower, her twin sister arrived!  Brunch was amazing.  Just as we ate our last bite, another email came in with more instructions.  We had some free time before a driver would pick us up and take us to a vineyard!!

Dannie’s picture

Since we had some time we found a nail salon.  Amber just kept asking is this my life right now?  Devin is sure to always spoil her to death, and it’s exactly what she deserves.

Later, the driver arrives (there’s a story there in and of itself, but this post will be a million years long if I get into that now), and an hour and a half later, we arrived at the Vineyard!  It was absolutely gorgeous!

We check in.  Turns out we’re not just having a normal wine tasting.  We’re having a wine tasting in the gorgeous gazebo out in the middle of the vines overlooking the sunset (how many bonus points are we up to now for Devin?  I’ve lost count)!

Not to discredit the wine, which was amazing, but we couldn’t get over the view or the fact that all of this was for us!  From the beginning, Amber was fretting about seeing her family.  They live about an hour an a half from Charlotte.  She knew she couldn’t fly clear across the country and not see them.  We just kept telling her not to worry about it (little did she know Devin had that all worked out too)!

In the middle of our tasting, a golf cart arrives.  All Amber hears is Aunt Amber?  Her little nephew comes running towards her followed by the rest of her family.  She just broke down.

We were all having so much fun visiting with each other, she almost didn’t notice when another golf cart arrived a little while later.  On it were Devin’s parents….

and Devin. Remember now, he’s supposed to be in the middle of the ocean across the country!  Are you crying yet?



He hops off the cart, gathers Amber into his arms, then drops to one knee.

Amber’s picture taken by Dannie


I know I can speak for everyone involved when I say our gratitude towards Devin for including us all in this special surprise is immeasurable.
I also can say, without a doubt, that she was incredibly surprised!
Honorable mentions: my sweet SIL for being such a lying little snot and pulling this weekend off (love you!)!
Congratulations Amber & Devin!!!