I dreamt of this
Sunday light creeped through the window, and I stirred, an arm heavy over my waist. I rolled over to face him, and he hugged me in tight. Good morning. In an instant, I was seventeen again, back in my sky blue room, in my tiny daybed with a phone resting against my...
Why we struggle with boundaries as adults
My friend, who recently graduated from college, came to me the other day panicking. Someone wanted her to do something, and it was pressing in hard to one of her boundaries. She felt obligated to appease the person simply because they asked, and I just looked at her....
How to politely enforce boundaries
I have boundaries galore. In fact, my boundaries have boundaries. But the same could be said even last year--when I was on the fast track to a breakdown. The truth is, they only work if you actually enforce them. In fact, sometimes knowing your boundaries without...
Stop disappointing yourself in favor of pleasing someone else
Have you ever agreed to something and then almost instantly thought Oh god! No! Why did I just commit to that? You probably practiced the interaction. Promised yourself no matter what you wouldn't get roped back in. But alas, here you are once again. The one common...
Inch by inch: Boundaries for opinions
There's a tattoo that I've been considering for a while. It'll be small, and it'll live on my right wrist. My husband, who is not a fan of tattoos, has pressed in hard with the questions. I have my reasons I've said over and over any time he's asked. You'll think it's...
Fresh Start? Boundaries you May Need.
For many of us, things kind of get out of whack over the summer. Kids are out of school. Vacations interrupt your normal workflow. Clients are in and out of the office. Life and business just lose all sense of normalcy and routine. So when August rolls around, I am typically desperate to reintroduce some structure.
Personal Boundaries for Balance (And some life update chatter)
Well, hello! So, things are going to be shifting and changing here in this space. I really really enjoy writing helpful lifestyle content about productivity, faith, and boundaries--so that won't necessarily be going anywhere. But I literally spend most of my day...
Boundaries: 3 Signs You Need Them
It was late summer 2017. My heart was pulsing so hard in my throat I thought it might choke me. You need to take a break, my best friend said to me on the phone. She was using her former retail manager voice, and my instincts said to obey. But I knew I couldn’t....
What do you want? The secret to finding clarity
“I don’t know what I want.” How many of you have said this to yourself at least once in the past six weeks? Maybe you’re unsure about which direction to take your career. Or maybe you’re considering leaving your job and starting your own company. Things might feel...
Stress management: How to relieve stress
Your chest feels tight. You can’t remember the last time you took a full, deep breath. Your mind is racing in overdrive. You can’t find reprieve. Is this you? Don’t worry. I’m sharing my tried and true stress management tactics. Want to find out how to relieve stress? Take a look.
