I don’t know exactly where this mindset came from, I’m sure I’ll find out after spending a 100 hours on a therapist’s couch, but I grew up with this mindset that I’d already lost.
I would see people doing things and think to myself I can’t ever do that. It wasn’t a matter of confidence or self-doubt, it was just a simple fact that I accepted. A voice inside my head reminding me that I’m me and they’re them. And the theys got to do things. The mes did not.
That didn’t stop me from graduating with a degree in writing, a specialty that had a very low success rate. But in a lot of ways, it was fitting. I went to class every day and listened to a professor remind us over and over that we probably wouldn’t make it. That’s okay, I’d think. I wasn’t going to make it anyway.
But as I rapidly approach thirty (holy cow how is it only four weeks away), I’ve started to challenge those thoughts, the I can’t do that assumptions. I’m embarrassed to admit that it’s taken me this long in life to realize that I actually can do what I want because I’m capable and willing to put in the work.
And with that realization comes the confidence. I may not know how to do everything, but I have the capacity and the desire to learn.
I am confident that I can because I am sure I will do everything in my power to figure out how. It’s not always about your innate ability, it’s about how badly you want something and how far you’ll go to get it.
It might have taken me a long time to realize these things about myself and to find my confidence, but it didn’t take long at all for me to learn that nothing comes easy. I’ll admit that I skated my way through schooling, never taking it quite as seriously as I should have. But that doesn’t mean it came easy, it means I put in exactly enough work to just get by.
And unfortunately, I subscribed to that theory much of my adult life. I wasn’t striving for greatness, I was striving for good enough. And maybe you can relate to that. And if you can, let’s change it. Ask yourself what it is you want, what it’ll take to get it, and make a promise to commit.
I am with you on this, I totally need to accept that if I try hard enough I can make my dreams come true and not just settle with what is getting me by.
love this post girl. i can definitely relate to striving for good enough. you absolutely can do whatever you want girl. we all can, we just have to realise it and work hard, that's for sure. high five!
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