Confession: I’ve gotten very picky about who I spend my time with.
It was never something I did super intentionally, but it is something I noticed recently.
I found myself seeking out the company of people I could learn from, people I admired, and people who are generally positive. Slowly, over time, I distanced myself from the friendships that were only developed out of commiserating.
It seems like a simple, obvious thing. But we’ve been trained to talk about the things we hate almost to the point that we can’t help it. If we talk about anything else, we come across boastful and braggy, and society teaches us not to be that way. It’s easy to find people who hate the same things, they’re a dime a dozen. But finding meaningful and positive friendships is harder to do. It requires some weeding.
But a magical thing happens when you start to climb your way out of the negative spiral, one person at a time. You’ll begin to notice that your conversations with those people give you energy instead of draining it. Their presence makes you feel strong, supported, and encouraged. Their friendship forces you to be and do better.