Confession: I’ve gotten very picky about who I spend my time with.
It was never something I did super intentionally, but it is something I noticed recently.
I found myself seeking out the company of people I could learn from, people I admired, and people who are generally positive. Slowly, over time, I distanced myself from the friendships that were only developed out of commiserating.
It seems like a simple, obvious thing. But we’ve been trained to talk about the things we hate almost to the point that we can’t help it. If we talk about anything else, we come across boastful and braggy, and society teaches us not to be that way. It’s easy to find people who hate the same things, they’re a dime a dozen. But finding meaningful and positive friendships is harder to do. It requires some weeding.
But a magical thing happens when you start to climb your way out of the negative spiral, one person at a time. You’ll begin to notice that your conversations with those people give you energy instead of draining it. Their presence makes you feel strong, supported, and encouraged. Their friendship forces you to be and do better.
This is so true! Surrounding myself with positive people rather than negative is something that I didn't realize was important until I got older. Now I just don't have time for that!
This reminds me of the song Frustrated by Soul Asylum. Have you heard it? It is an oldie but a goodie! I try to stay away from constant negativity from people. We all have bad days or can have a bad attitude about things, but there comes a point where you start pulling others down with you!
Yes! It's so important to surround yourself with positive people.
Girl, yes! I am totally over negativity. I don't have any space for that in my life anymore and am slowly eliminating people who bring out that side of me. xo, Champagne&Suburbs