Pinch Me Moments Full of Uncertainty

by | Jun 28, 2016 | Throwback | 4 comments

I’ve had a lot of pinch me moments in the last few weeks. First with New York, then turning 30 surrounded by my best friends, and now with the business.

Those moments give me pause. I spent a lot of time devastatingly unhappy in the last year. I lost a lot of time marinating in loss and an accepted reality.

When you feel trapped in the life you’re living, it’s impossible to see the other side of anything. It’s hard to see your way out. Maybe what you’re doing isn’t so bad. Maybe it’s actually not bad at all, it’s just not what you want. But you feel like you have to do it. You feel like you don’t have a choice.

I was waiting until I felt ready, until I knew everything, to make a change. I felt desperate to know exactly how things would go. I needed a seamless, easy transition. I was afraid of the judgements, what people would say. I was afraid people would call me foolish, or worse selfish, for wanting a change.

The life we had was good. Fine. Enough. It was comfortable and easy. But we weren’t happy. And when that’s the only reason, it’s hard to justify making a change without feeling selfish.

My job wasn’t making me unhappy exactly, but it was contributing to my life of unhappiness. And leaving my job would disrupt a lot of things. It would dry up my income entirely. It would rattle the lives of of children I came to love. It wasn’t an easy choice to make, and it terrified me to make it. I like order and reliability, and I was willingly throwing that out the window without knowing everything.

So when I see what at my life has looked like the last month since I left my job, full of all those pinch me moments, I feel proud. Not the bad kind of pride that the bible says you shouldn’t have. Just the pat-yourself-on-the-back kind for being faced with something hard and turning it around.

I’d say I’m lucky, but it has nothing to do with luck. All it takes is dedication and some hard work.

Accept the fact that you don’t have to know everything to make a change. In fact, accept that you probably won’t always know everything. It’s a little uncomfortable being uncertain, but it sure beats being unhappy.

So just decide what you want
and go get it.
You’ll learn what you need to know
along the way.

In case you missed it, Myra and I launched our business Bliss Creative Services last week. If you like the content you see here, be sure to check out The Bliss Blog for new content every Monday and Wednesday!



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4 Comments

  1. So glad you are having all these pinch me moments!!! That is fabulous and well deserved! I am so happy and excited for you two. And your site and blog look great.

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  2. you should be proud, that is awesome girl! it's hard to give in to uncertainty and learn things along the way, but like you said, better than unhappiness!

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  3. Congrats on your new biz! I know the feeling of jumping into uncertainty and it's daunting for sure. But I think you're going to do great.

    Reply

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