I’m sharing something sad today.
And I contemplated not saying anything about it at all because deep down it still really hurts.
And I really don’t know if I can take the judgement or the comments.
But holding it inside is making me a little crazy.
Remember Webster?
Webster is a troubled little kitty.
He got out just before our wedding and was missing for days. I left for my honeymoon not knowing if my cat was alive.
When my parents finally found him, he had been traumatized.
The vet said he had PTSD and prescribed prozac. I’m not kidding.
He was peeing all over my floor.
We tried calming collars, plug ins, attracting litter, safe rooms, mult. litter boxes, etc.
And then it all just got to be too much.
So we got him his own little apartment.
He did great in the cage for about a month.
And then he started peeing all over that too. And he cried and cried and cried.
In turn, I cried and cried and cried.
We tested the cage out for 9 months.
We were both miserable.
Last Friday, I drove to Raleigh.
And I gave Webster a new home.
My heart is broken; but is for the best all around.
Webster will finally be happy.
And even though I miss him so much, it’s for the best here, too.
I really can’t handle any of the backlash for this right now. I, of all people, completely understand how pets are members of the family and that we make lifetime commitments to them. But sometimes the only real answer to making them happy is understanding that we can’t provide them what they need. I gave Webster all that I had. I exhausted all of my resources over the last 3 years, and it was time I understood that he couldn’t be truly happy in my home. Webster was my little boy, and giving him up has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s been a week and I still want to vomit when I think about it. I hope you all can understand.
People are jerks Jo!
Awww … I can only imagine how hard it is to give away your kitty, but you did the right thing for him. Don't let the jerks make you feel bad. Webster will remember you for giving him what he needed. Love you!
You absolutely made the right choice! It will hurt forever, but know in your heart that you are both better off. It was just as rough on him too. HUGS to you girly!
=( aww… I'm so sorry you had to give him up! It was for the best, and I hope his new home can give him the comfort he needs and I hope you can take comfort in that.
I'm not sure why people feel like they can be cruel over the internet (maybe because they don't have to deal with seeing the hurt they cause?). I hope no one would dare try and make this harder for you than it already has been. You did the right thing for your sweet boy, and I'm sure he'll be a happier kitty because of it! Thinking of and praying for you, girl!
You did the right thing, Joey. Showing love is acknowledging that there is someone out there that maybe able to give Webster what he needs. You tried so hard and anyone that says otherwise is wrong and knows it. The worst thing you could have done was to deny that there was anything wrong, but not only did you do that and try to fix it, but you also gave him up so that he might have a chance at settling down again. I'm sorry you had to go through all that pain, but you did the right thing, and I know that no one in their right mind could ever blame you for not only doing the right thing, but for trying so hard before doing what was best for him. You put him first, and that's what all mothers and fathers of furbabies and human children too should do. You did what was best for them, even though it was hard and hurts. Love ya hun!
Wow, that is so crazy. I had no idea an animal could get PTSD. What was it from? My mom was reading all these books on training her new dog and the books said that animals don't have memories, but I think this clearly shows they do. So sorry for your loss- I'm sure it's been tough but you are strong and can survive it! Just found your blog and I'm so excited to get to know you better and follow along!
new follower 🙂
bonnie
bonnielouisa.blogspot.com
We had to put our cat down after he wouldnt stop spraying – same type of scenario though – we rescued him, came home from honeymoon, not knowing if he made it, took another turn for the worse and then lived a couple of years with us, always being slightly off and when we moved to the new house, he went crazy. We couldn't even let him be an outdoor cat because someone had declawed him. It is sad saying goodbye, but you did the best thing for him!
I'm so sorry Jo! I feel for you and the kitty. I went through something like this with my Pom but nowhere near as traumatic and she eventually warmed up to people again. For cats, sometimes I feel like it's a lot tougher to do. You did the right thing. Now you can finally breathe and relax! You had to do what you had to do.
Love you friend!
I'm so sorry to hear. I know what you mean how scary that is. Our 3 month old puppy disappeared on his first camping trip this summer and was who knows where for 48 hours before we finally got a call from God sent people. It's a scary thing and who knows what you're poor little guy went thru. You did what's best for both you and him. God bless dear…If you get a sec, I'd love to hear your thoughts on my latest posts!
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2 Things!
1st just found your blog and I love it:)
2nd.. That is to sad about having to give your kitty a new home. I don't know how I would handle it if I had to do that to one of my pups. I'd fall to pieces. Hopefully he is doing better now though.
xoxo
Samantha
betterblondesam.blogspot.com
I had the same problem with my cat 🙁 he was sad living in our new apartment BUT we were able to take him to my parents house THANK GOD! So I still see him ALL the time! We miss him lots and my puppy misses him MORE but sometimes we have to make tough decisions for the better of the animal.
I'm so sorry to hear you had to give your kitty away. It's hard but I think it was the right choice for you both. We had recently adopted a dog from our local shelter and she was as sweet as can be, but she wasn't trained very well at all. She was really clingy and almost house trained. After about 6 months she and our other dog started fighting and it was bad. We finally had to return her and it absolutely broke my heart. It doesn't take long at all for pets to become our "kids." I hear she now has a good home. 🙂 Keep your head up and who cares what other people think. I know exactly how you feel.
I love your blog by the way!